She Matters

She Matters

A Life in Friendships

Book - 2013 | 1st Scribner hardcover ed.
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From the bestselling "immensely gifted" (Michiko Kakutani, The New York Times ) author of Her Last Death comes a stunningly candid, compulsively readable, intensely provocative book about female friendships.

The New York Times called Susanna Sonnenberg "immensely gifted," and Vogue , "scrupulously unsentimental." Entertainment Weekly described Sonnenberg's Her Last Death as "a bracing memoir about growing up rich and glamorous with a savagely inappropriate mother." Now, Sonnenberg, with her unflinching eye and uncanny wisdom, has written a compulsively readable book about female friendship.

T he best friend who broke up with you. The older girl at school you worshipped. The beloved college friend who changed. The friend you slept with. The friend who betrayed you. The friend you betrayed. Companions in travel, in discovery, in motherhood, in grief; the mentor, the model, the rescuer, the guide, the little sister. These have been the women in Susanna Sonnenberg's life, friends tender, dominant, and crucial after her reckless mother gave her early lessons in womanhood.

Searing and superbly written, Sonnenberg's She Matters: A Life in Friendships illuminates the friendships that have influenced, nourished, inspired, and haunted her--and sometimes torn her apart. Each has its own lessons that Sonnenberg seeks to understand. Her method is investigative and ruminative; her result, fearlessly observed portraits of friendships that will inspire all readers to consider the complexities of their own relationships. This electric book is testimony to the emotional significance of the intense bonds between women, whether shattered, shaky, or unbreakable.
Publisher: New York : Scribner, 2013.
Edition: 1st Scribner hardcover ed.
ISBN: 9781439190586
Characteristics: vii, 255 p. ; 24 cm.


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Apr 08, 2013

I rated this high for the writing. She has a great way with description, with combining word pictures that make the idea she is trying to convey come alive. The topic, friendships, is explored from an almost totally egocentric perspective. Sonnenberg is forever trying to figure out why her friends don't seem to get her, why they don't fulfil all her needs. This book does show she is trying to understand and to change but for me it was quite clear she was looking for a mother. Read this in stages so you don't get bogged down in her angst and her over-the-top rhapsodising.

Feb 26, 2013

All i could feel was sad for this woman who seemed to make friends but ended up losing them. You never know why really so many reasons for her failed frienships. Found her tiring and i think i have to end my frienship with her too.


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